Today, I sat down to think about all that I’ve been hearing, and reflect on the beauty of each season.
In the first sermon of the series above, Pastor Steven talks about speaking positively about the season you are in. This hit me hard. You know they say “you are what you eat” but it rings true to the time of your life you are in, as well – it is what you speak of it. It is not just what you make of it, although that is a big part, but it is what you say about it.
When you speak positively about the things you are dealing with, the place you are in, and the lessons you are learning, they become beautiful for what they are. When you speak anger and bitterness about where you find yourself while you watch others seemingly accomplish and receive all that you long for, this season in your lfie becomes one of bitterness and anger.
Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. (Eph 4:31-32)
That verse speaks a lot to me about myself and the seasons I find myself in. I have to get rid of those things, and I also need to “forgive” others who are in the season I wish I was walking through. Not that those people did anything wrong, but I have become bitter towards them, jealous towards their lives, and angry about their position vs mine. Mind you, this doesn’t look like rage and slander on the outside – I’m talking about the condition of my heart at times. I have to let it go, to allow them to walk in this season and to celebrate with them when they celebrate and to mourn with them when they mourn.
Pastor Steven makes a good point in his first sermon on Times and Seasons – every season has struggles on the inside that you cannot see from the outside.
You know this is true. When I am single and longing for a romantic relationship I see everyone else all cuddly, holding hands, kissing cheeks, in la-la-land and find myself annoyed and jealous. I bitterly go through my life wishing I had someone to share this nasty new recipe I just tried or go see the newest movie I’ve been wishing to see. Get rid of all bitterness. BUT, then I find myself in a romantic relationship, constantly battling with my partner to work through the hard parts of life, and at times still having to try nasty recipes alone. I find myself considering another person’s time and needs and not able to fully pursue my own timeline and my own needs. There is often a longing for what once was, even just a hint, a lingering wish for the bliss the previous season had. But in the past season you longed for what was ahead, imaging it to be blissful and fulfilling on it’s own.
It is never fulfilling like you once imagined it might be.
How about when you were a kid and just thought, “once I can drive, then life will be great!” Or, “once I’m in college life will be perfect.” And then when you get to college you find yourself wishing for the simplicities of childhood where life was so easy. Ok, college is easy too, who am I kidding? Once you get out of college you find yourself wishing for a life of classes, naps, and endless amounts of social time with friends.
Stop wishing away today.